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How we messed up love!

There are three kinds of us. Ones,who post heavily romantic stuff, of love and its magic. Seconds,who post stuff about love being a jerk,moh-maaya. Thirds,who are sick of both. Or let me put it this way. Most of us, were Type 1, who became Type 2 and are progressively becoming Type 3. I am very confidently saying this due to sufficiently large sample size. 

From here
To here

We,the millenials, have lived through DDLJ, Salaam Namaste and now OK Jaanu. Our ideas of love have evolved faster than Darwin could ever imagine. Not just ideas,our belief in love has evolved. Vanished. 

To here

Careers. There are Type 1 who are engineers, doctors, lawyers and all the “respectable” professions one could be in. Type 2 who have dared to do unconventional stuff. And Type 3, who wanted to be Type 2, were scared so studied things to be Type 1 but couldn’t fit anywhere. We have grown in the age of extremely high demand of IT people to the rise of careers by making YouTube videos. We have seen the soaring numbers of Cyber Cafe and now revolutions happening by tapping fingers from the couch. 

We are messed up because we,in mere 20-25 years of our lifespan have seen rise and demise of phenomena. We grew in era of deep deep romance where eyes did the talking. We heard with awe Preity Zinta smirk at Hrithik Roshan and asking him to “Ghoomaao-firaao and sugar coat his proposal”.

Iss baat ko zara aur saja ke kehte

Entered a Deepika Padukone who very meticuously directed The Nawab to “Seedhe point pe aao na”

Senti ho mai jaan gayi ab action dikhaao na

And when we still faced defeat in the romantic sphere, these people came with their golden words of wisdom of never falling in love.

What we have ended up becoming? These people. Who fall in love. Who do not know how to deal with love. So we run away. We curse. And then repeat. In this movie ( Shuddh Desi Romance) the eternal lover boy of Bollywood how emphatically exclaimed  “Yaar tum log bhagte bahut ho”

This movie was epitome of our mess.

Now pardon me for being a big time Bollywood buff, but I have seen every reflection of these 22 years in these movies. Or the other way round. There are countless reasons or rather factors to account for the mess but I would rather talk about two.

  • Family structures- The way our families have progressed! For once I would not call most families orthodox. The way the families have accepted the fact that the youngsters have a love life, have breakups, have casual flings- this very open conversational stir has messed up things in the sense that we are no more scared of making mistakes. With transparency, we are most khula saands! 
  • Jaane tu ya jaane na. This Mom!
  • As cliche as it may sound but Internet– 10 msgs ( not messages) per day including the “Hey” text! Saving money for the SMS pack! And now unlimited texts/voice/video calls. Sure the communication has got revolutionized. But so has the respect and anticipation. There is no more excitement in new notifications. Approaching, befriending, intimidating, loving and then avoiding and evading people- it is all happening all the time on the keypads. We have got so much control over the apps that we are losing control. 
  • The player of our times!

Sadly enough, I do not intend to provide any remedies( Not that I have any). I guess we like mess. We like being called messy. We will evolve through this. In what direction, I know not. I just hope,wherever we are, we can still appreciate this.

The lyrics of this song send chills down the spine


"Kismat se tum humko mile ho
 Kaise chhorenge, yeh hath ham na chhorenge
 Tukde dil ke ham tum milke
 Phir se jodenge, yeh shisha phir se jodenge
 Phir se banatee takdiro ko, armaano ko janziron ko
Jaanam abb naa todenge"

(You may listen to this song from movie Pukar, here
Kismat Se Tum Hum Ko Mile (Pukar):

Why don't you share your opinions on the same? I'm sure you all have a lot to say.

Happy summer



Love-struck,people-struck,fashion-struck,bollywood-struck,winter-struck,chicken-struck,poetry-struck,earrings-struck 20-something. An accidental biologist,I find solace in stories of any kind. Books,Hindi songs, clothes, ideas,relations..all that makes up my existence will travel up to this blog. Chance are many can relate to me. For those who can't,remember I love stories. You could be a story.

10 thoughts on “How we messed up love!

  1. Yeah! this is what our today’s generation all about, actually there is a kind of comfort on being messy. This is a modern fairy tale with no happy ending. And you are right on that people of our age group are more likely type 3 person when it comes to love. I really can’t understand how do the so called “couple” can talk the whole day the same shit every day, I mean yes you need someone to talk but not the same thing again and again. I would love to talk if she would be interested in talking about cosmos and related things or things that she finds interesting or new things she wants to share but about love and fantasies all the time is really insane. And I really wish if we could go back to those letter days where love was not taken for granted and once effort was really appreciated.

    There is more things I want to share but I guess that’s enough for today 😛 and yes the post is up to the point about today’s scenario.

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    1. Everytime you visit the blog and review it extensively, you make my day brighter 😀 Thank you so much once again for taking out time to read and review. I totally agree with the fact that we now take things so much for granted. A conversation that’s more deep and meaningful is almost always lacking as you said because most of us are running to just have a “relationship”.
      Thank you once again for the comprehensive opinion. 😀

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  2. Interesting take. Creating a thread and a common theme from among these various films was a remarkable work. Kudos!
    A friend told me yesterday, “People don’t worry in their 20s.” Maybe that’s right. We believe we will “figure out” (to use the catchphrase of the latest one in your list) things as and when they happen. And if breakups and messy separations come up, maybe post a Facebook status with, “Mere naseeb me aye dost, tera pyaar nahi.” 😝😝
    Welcome back to blogging.

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  3. A deep research is needed to write such stuff.
    After reading this post I would like to say that nowadays love storys and relationships have just become formatted. I mean, today have a relationship not just because they actually fell in love, but coz they wanna just have a relationship for showing off.
    I said used the term ‘formatted’ because today when u are in a relationship there is a so called format you need to follow, like every morning to send msg to ur partner has become a daily chore. If u dnt talk to ur partner evry 2hrs they start complaining how u r ignoring them. Nd lot such more stuff.
    Now talking about the role of Bollywood movies here, I would say that each movie has a different story, different view about love and thats fine. But we people just dnt understand it and take it so seriously that we think if my love story is not going the way in the film then something is wrong. And what happen is due to too many movies too many new expectations come. For eg. Like in YJHD(its my all tym favourite) Bunny left his job in abroad and agreed to settle down with Naina in India, that’s okay it was the plot of the film. But now what we need to understand is that every girlfriend should not think that her BF needs to quit his job in abroad or any other far away city. In short ur life must surely does not need to be a Btown Film’s replica.
    Btw it was fun reading you.

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    1. I am deeply thankful to you for the comprehensive review you’ve given to the post making it all the more richer. I totally agree to your idea of “Formatted” relationships. Sadly but surely,that is the hard truth.
      Movies are reflection of what i happening but more often than not,they end up giving unrealistic milestones to achieve.
      Once again,thanks a lot for reading and reviewing.
      Have a great weekend and stay connected 🙂

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