To the 15-year old girl

Hey girl,
You look amazing in that dress and them heels. When I was 15,I was wearing polo t-shirts,jeans and ponytail to everywhere. Not that I had many ‘everywhere’s to go. You are going to the clubs and parties. I received a couple of your invites on facebook. I can only imagine how much fun those would be. I just want to ask you,isn’t 15 a bit too early for the clubs? Why do want to see drunk people grooving away and practising infidelty because it’s “cool”,when you should watch Gumrah and know how they suffer? No,I am not judging you. No,I am not jealous since I never got to do what you do. I am actually concerned.

   

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I have been teaching you and many 15 year olds like you for past 2 years to bear my expenses. I see what you do. You take the pain of getting waxed at this age. Doesn’t it hurt? Why do you ‘have to’ do it? Because everyone else is doing it? Because you are otherwise weird? Because you want to impress that guy? You’ve got lovely young skin. I saw you getting facial at a parlour. I see you straightening your hair for school. You,by all means have all the rights to look pretty. But guess what,at your age,you are beautiful and can do without adulteration. Your natural skin is what women in 20s and 30s are dying to have. What is this pressure you’ve taken upon yourself? You’ll have all the time to do it. Right now is the time to beautify your mind and deck up your future. Why don’t you watch career-oriented videos instead of makeup tutorials?
    

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Source-parentsociety

I once asked you about your life goals. You said-“I wanna be an awesome mother to my kids”. I smiled. That’s a wonderful dream. Here at 20,I don’t get to hear that from girls my age or older. So kudos to you . But why don’t you have a goal to achieve for yourself before you become mommy? You and your “boyfriend” both take tuitions from me. You took Science because he did,so you can be together. But last year you said you want to study history,didn’t you? You stopped wearing black because he told you he didn’t like. Why don’t you become YOU before being his girlfriend? You put status  like “You are my life” ” You are my king”, “You are my reason of smiling” and then you put “I’m broken”, “I hate love”. The fact is you might just have no idea about life or love or both. You need oxygen survival. No guy. Never a guy.

      

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No. Don't dream this. Dream to earn it.

I am not judging you again,but what’s the need to get physical at this age? Why don’t you maintain a healthy relationship and make a career and see if you still want to stay with that guy who told you bright colors don’t suit you? Why do you ‘have to’ send him nude pictures or get a tattoo done? Why shouldn’t you want to be a woman of substance whose qualities make her DESIRABLE? What’s this craze about being ‘ACCEPTABLE’?

     

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You needn't feel this at 15

Your FB posts,pictures and whatsapp statuses irritate me first but then they worry me. I know I am sounding preachy but you are way too young for all that you do. I know you’ll learn the game fast and soon. But for that,you need to value yourself and create yourself before mingling in the ‘hep culture’. I am saying because nobody told me. I am there if you need a sister or an agony aunt.

Build your bed of sterner stuff,
Roses may follow.

Your Didi
Archita

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12 comments

  1. bloggeray · July 28

    Thoughtful, poignant, hard-hitting and guiding — these are all what this post is, and I have to congratulate you on a great job. Not good, but great. This is something that we see in everyday life, all around us. I mean, I don’t understand why and how a 11th-standard kid “needs” an Activa or a ₹ 30,000 phone, or why a schoolgirl, who is obviously better at things than she takes herself to be, needs her so-called BF’s approval on every single topic?

    And seriously, love? What the heck is that at age 15? A dozen kisses and a couple of costly gifts don’t make love. But then, I’m being preachy, aren’t I? The exact same way you were in this post. **That** is the problem with teenage. You tell them that among other things, hair colour is bad for them, and they’ll shoot back that you’re jealous.

    I think I should stop before this turns into a full-blown rant. Great job. 👏

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    • The Anaari Drum · July 28

      Can you please imagine me doing a mental dance right now? Because your comment is making me do that. This coming from somebody so thoughtful and somebody whose writing I look up to,is humbling to say the least. Thank you soooo much 😀 As if the gorgeous rain wasn’t enough,your comment just made the evening prettier 🙂

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      • bloggeray · July 28

        You know those cute puppy/kitten videos, imagine this comment of yours to be that for me.

        I’m honoured to read that you look up to my writing, and the wonderful thing is that the respect is mutual. 😊

        BTW, send some rain this way too. We’ve been waiting forever. 😳

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      • The Anaari Drum · July 28

        No. No way. You can ask for chai pakora,not the rain. :/
        haha! Yay good vibes 😀

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      • bloggeray · July 28

        Thoda daan kar do. Log pani ka pyaau banvate hain, aap barsaat udhar nahi de rahe?😵😵

        Never mind. I’ll wait till monsoon gets in a better mood. 😆😆

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      • The Anaari Drum · July 28

        Hahahhaha. Tathastu 😛

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      • bloggeray · July 28

        😁😁

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  2. Vamagandhi · August 2

    This blog has strong ‘viral quotient’ apart from being a well composed and insightful blog.

    Liked by 1 person

    • The Anaari Drum · August 3

      Thank you so much 🙂 This feels great to hear. Welcome on the blog ,happy reading 🙂

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  3. Miithoun · August 3

    Thinking from outside of the box. Bravo..Bravo…Bravo.

    Liked by 1 person

    • The Anaari Drum · August 3

      Thank you so much Minhazur. I’m glad you are reading through my blog. 😀

      Like

  4. Extremelyordinary · February 22

    💓Inspiration

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